roughly one thousand three hundred women can be expected to be raped on any day in South Africa. in an Interpol study South Africa was revealed to lead the world in rapes.
a woman is raped in South Africa every 17 seconds, not counting child rape victims. It is estimated that one in every two women is likely to be raped. Between 28 and 30 percent of adolescents reported that their first sexual encounter was forced.
Of South African men who knew somebody who had been raped, 16 percent believed that the rape survivor had enjoyed the experience and had asked for it. A recent study by the south african police estimated that only one in 36 rape cases was reported and of those only 15 percent culminated in a conviction.
LET ME JUST SHARE, HERE AND NOW WITH THE WORLD THAT I AM ONE OF THE 35 WHO SAID NOTHING. I THINK 18 YEARS OF KEEPING SILENT IS QUITE LONG ENOUGH, DON'T YOU?
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12 comments:
my chest feels very tight now
brave again
and long enough
i cannot know
what it has been
may the tightness ease
it was wrong, what was done
how to carry this so long
and scary now to let it out
but it was very wrong
and you are quite right
thank you for that wonderful support steve. i knew i was going to like you :)
i have daughters
that i love
and a son
you are precious
and quite strong
i think many
would say so
thank you steve, really. there are many who do not agree with my journey. but i'm ok with my choice. how old are your children? their best tool is self esteem, i feel.
19, 15, 13...and my son is 9.
i try to build them up, some need it more than others. i'm not always sure how to help them...but i agree it is very important for them to have good self-esteem. i also know that actions speak more than words, and sometimes just being there is what is needed.
What a burden, dear cape. trying to displace this burden, in and of itself creates a greater burden, doesn't it? How to unload? Where to place it? I think you are finding your voice. Silence is never golden when it begs to be heard. And you have something to say! Why else would I have a link to all of your blogs AND in my chatterbox?
steve> yes i think promoting self esteem is not always 'active' it can be as simple as being there or not being there when that is needed too. or it can be just a sense of unconditional love. i lacked that as a child. my father's affections were based on my obedience to his warped sense of order. if that was not there he withdrew his affections. very damaging. very.
tim> temporarily it creates burdensome feelings but that is because i am still dealing with a sense of innapropriate shame that i am right now, smashing.
more to steve: because it created the sense in me that if i was myself it was not acceptable or lovable. this has created endless bad decisions on my part and a feeling that i lack wholeness. any self esteem i have now, i have had to gather myself through lots of hard work. it takes time better spent elsewhere and is not fair on children.
you're doing a marvelous job. i'm sorry you've had so much pain. i like to think that there are people who love/accept you just like you are - the whole thing. i really think so.
brave and so moving
you've shown so much courage in carrying this burden for so long
and even more in beginning the process of shedding it
my heart goes out to you
i wish you well
im so sorry for you cape
this breaks my heart to know
(hugs you, and hugs you)
just wish i could do more
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